Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Reasons & Excuses

How many times have you not followed through on something? Now look back, did you give a reason for each of those times? Did that reason seem justifying enough for you to feel satisfied? Unless you were physically not able to do that task, now ask yourself - is that reason truly justified?

When we give reasons to our minds not to do something, we are only limiting its unlimited potential to do things beyond imagination. The reasons we give are excuses, perhaps because we might have been lazy at that time, or that we were afraid of the consequences. I believe that the main reason why we don't follow through on many things is fear. Fear of the unknown (or the known) consequences. We start wondering what will happen if it does or does not work out the way we want it to. Then, we start to worry about what the reaction of the others would be. When we start to think and worry about all these, we start to lose our confidence to actually do it correctly. Then, half way through, we give up.

We have got to start thinking and looking at things / situations for just the way they are, and stop categorizing them as being either good or bad. After all, we established the rules for "good" and "bad" in our society to have a sense of control over people. As I said in one of my previous notes, we want to distinguish good and bad situations because we want to control the way life works for us. For us. That's selfishness. Of course, in that aspect, we are all selfish, because we want our life to be favorable for us.

In spite of wanting (in a way needing) life to be favorable for us, we give up on things half way through. Whatever the reason, giving up is still not justified. Not following through on something makes matters worse - in our own minds. Why do you think we worry all the time? We have pockets of these emotions in our mind that keep telling us that we have not followed through on something despite being able to.

Almost every reason we give to justify our incomplete tasks is an excuse. It might be an excuse for any reason, it is still an excuse. It is just us trying to escape from the situation.

Marianne Williamson said - "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us"

That is absolutely true. We don't fear being failures, we are afraid of succeeding. Most importantly, we are afraid of the opinions of people around us.

When we try to please everyone around us, we lose ourselves. If there is one thing we should not do, it is regret later in life, when we are actually physically not capable, about things that we could have done all those years ago, but gave up on.

Don't quit. Be confident. And, believe in yourself and your abilities. Don't give up, and for nature's sake, don't ever give excuses to give up on something. No matter what it is, you will not be able to justify it and you will regret.

Most important - look within to find all the support and encouragement you need. After all, no one understands you better than yourself. Then you can motivate yourself to finish everything you begin.


   

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